The Physics of Being

I wanna live

I wanna give

I've been a miner for a heart of gold

It's these expressions

I never give

That keep me searchin’ for a heart of gold

And I'm gettin’ old

     (Neil Young, 1972)

 

Neil Young wants to find life in a heart of gold.

I also feel like I’ve been searching for a heart of gold.

I want someone to see me.

I want someone to know me.

I want someone to love me.

Where is that heart of gold?

I’ve been a miner for a heart of gold -- and I’m getting old.

 

Quantum physics tells us that observation creates things in the physical world.

I must be created by being seen by another consciousness.

When I am seen, I become connected with another.

Being connected to others happens with observation.

People become real when I see them as they are.

"A heart of gold" can see others as they are. 

I need someone with "a heart of gold" to see me.

 

CREATION

I don’t exist until I am known by another.

I don’t exist unless I am observed.

I’m not real until I’m known.

The consciousness of another brings me into existence.

I’m Schroedinger’s cat -- both dead and alive -- both but neither.

I am in a state of “superposition” neither dead nor alive until somebody sees me, hears me, experiences me.

In the superposition, there is no existence in the physical world.

 

Observation is to see others as they really are, and not as reflections of myself.

Observation is to open the box to see the particle and fix it in a position, making it real, bringing it into my physical world of time and space.

Bringing others into my time and space, becoming one with them, creates entanglement.

Entanglement with another changes me.

 

I become me in another when I am observed by them.

As I am observed by others, I come into existence in different ways, depending on the view of the other.

Each is a unique entanglement.

Each brings out a different part of me.

Each enlarges me.

Growth requires entanglement of consciousness -- to see and be seen.

When I see another, the entanglement increases me.

I gain new understanding, new experience, and new life.

 

Infinite creations are possible, as each observes others.

Every individual could observe every other individual.

Since people are complex, multiple connections can be made between any two people.

The connections are endless.

Creation of new creatures is endless.

Consciousness is creating new entanglements forever as we observe, and know, others.

 

God is creating by observation.

God observes us.

God knows us.

 

DARKNESS

 

Some say they want to hide, so they seek darkness.

Some make a façade to show the world.

Some have a mask.

Some avoid others.

Some people are hopeless, and in despair.

Those who hide are a caricature to all around them.

In the darkness, people can think that nobody knows them.

 

Even those who want to hide, secretly want to be known.

They want to be understood.

They want to be seen, but they are afraid.

They desperately need to be seen behind the mask.

Everyone wants to be known.

Everyone wants to exist. 

 

MARRIAGE

 

Marriage is the expectation of a new creature, a birth.

The intimate attachment is another level of creation.

The couple is a new birth.

They know each other.

They see each other.

 

The children are the manifestation of the creation of a new creature.

“Adam knew his wife, Eve, and she bore a son.”

 

A couple is a new creature created by knowing one another.

They see each other.

They feel each other.

They observe the real partner.

They become one in knowing each other.

Each observes the other without judgment. 

True intimacy: “into-me-see”

 

Each is an infinite being.

Every person has multiple sides.

People change and grow, being ever variable.

As they grow, the couple sees one another in a new light, creating a new entanglement.

Marriage intimacy is forever young because it constantly renews the connection.

Intimacy is never boring.

 

NARCISSUS

 

See me!

Look at me!

I need to be known.

I need to be understood.

I need entanglement.

I need true connection.

I need to be.

I don’t exist to anyone.

I’m not there.

I’m a different tool to each person who knows me.

Nobody knows me.

Nobody knows who I am.

I’m not real.

I’m not myself.

I’m an actor, playing roles in other people’s lives.

 

I’m not looking at others.

I’m not seeing others.

I’m just like Narcissus, looking in mirrors at myself.

Everyone I see only reflects me to me.

I see only my own reflection in others.

I don’t know anyone as they are, only as I am.

I know nothing outside myself.

I try to be seen, but I don’t see.

I wonder if anyone really sees anyone.

I wonder if a heart of gold exists.

 

SAMENESS

False unity is sameness.

It seems like we think the same.

It appears like we act the same.

“We can finish each other’s... sandwiches.”

We seem to be well-matched because we are the same.

People gather together based on their similarities.

We are compatible because we think alike, we act alike, and we feel the same. 

This “sameness” is fake entanglement because it is narcissistic.

It’s not possible to be compatible based on sameness, because no two people are alike.

 

SEX

Selfishness in any form is a fake connection.

A sexual relationship seems like it could create an intimate relationship.

I need to touch, and be touched.

I need to feel, and be felt. 

It's all about me. 

Sex is a fake entanglement.

Sex without knowing is narcissistic.

A purely sexual relationship is just mutual masturbation. 

Any fetish is a fake entanglement. 

False entanglements exist in the mind of one because it doesn’t know the other.

It is not real observation of the other so there is no entanglement.

There is no connection in taking from another.

Others are just extensions of themselves.

 

CHARITY

 

I cannot observe another if I’m narcissistic.

Entanglement requires me to see the heart, especially the uniqueness of the other.

Real connection requires observation of the unique existence of the other.

New life is created by observation, and entanglement.

My needs will prevent the creation of another creature.

As long as I only see sameness, I am not connected.

I must see them as they are.

 

See Me

Feel Me

Touch Me

Heal Me

 

Listening to you, I get the music

Gazing at you, I get the heat

Following you, I climb the mountain

I get excitement at your feet

 

Right behind you, I see the millions

On you, I see the glory

From you, I get opinion

From you, I get the story

                        (Pete Townshend)

 

The only way out of narcissism is charity.

Those without charity only see themselves in another.

Without charity I cannot know anyone.

Without charity I cannot observe God as His is.

Without charity I have no real connections.

Without charity I have no entanglements.

Without charity I am nothing.

 

Charity is not to be seen, but to see.

The gift of charity is rare.

A “heart of gold” is charity.

As gold is rare, and precious, so is charity.

The greatest gift in the world is charity because it allows entanglement.

 

When I was a child,

I spake as a child,

I understood as a child,

I thought as a child:

but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

 

For now we see through a glass, darkly;

but then face to face:

now I know in part;

but then shall I know even as also I am known.

            (1 Corinthians 13:11-12)

 

Charity is growing up.

Charity is knowing others.

Charity is freedom.

Charity is observing others.

Charity is true love.

Charity is observation, becoming entangled with others.

Charity makes others real.

Charity sees without judgment.

Charity creates new creatures.

 

The primary “Other” that must be known is God.

The first commandment is to love God.

To know Him is to love Him.

He sees me as I am.

I am observed as I really am.

I shall see Him as He is.

I enlarge Him.

He enlarges me.

 

Charity allows me to see Him as He is.

When I see Him, I know Him.

When I observe Him, He becomes real to me.

Creation is in my consciousness is awareness.

When I become conscious of God, I create Him.

My conscious observance of God allows me to become entangled with Him.

When I see Him, I become a new creature in Christ.

We remain separate, but entangled.

My connection with God creates a new creature.

 

UNITY

 

Unity is observation -- it is knowing.

Unity is entanglement.

Unity is understanding the hearts of one another.

Unity is knowing their uniqueness.

Becoming one is understanding, or seeing.

People cannot understand what we have not experienced.

Unity is experiencing others as they are.

Unity knows others without judgment. 

Unity is continually creating more connections.

Connections are created by entanglements.

Entanglements come from observation.

Conscious observation, to see and be seen, is creation.

Creation of new creatures brings unity.