Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Marriage and Happiness

I have had an ongoing discussion with my son about marriage.  He insists there is no need for marriage, and I have a hard time explaining it in a way that he would understand.  Using metaphors and analogies can be helpful, but they don't convey the reality of marriage to one who has not experienced it any more than a description of a Mozart sonata would really help anyone who has never heard one.  In spite of this, I would like to venture to elaborate on the seven reasons for marriage, in no particular order.


  • Love
  • Security
  • God
  • Children
  • Fun
  • Connection
  • Happiness


Love
Marriage is about true love.  Only within the bonds of marriage can we really love another.  It is the covenant we make that allows us to learn to get outside of ourselves and truly love another.  Without the commitment, we only do what we want, what we like, or seek fulfillment, and don't really learn to love.  However,with a real commitment we can truly love our spouse with all our hearts, which leads to peace, joy and happiness.

Security
People often seek security in having money, land, houses, or other material goods.  Others want their employer or the government to provide a "safety net" in their lives.  Marriage, however, is the best way to have safety and security.  Being able to depend on another person who loves you gives more sense of security than even the government with all its power and resources.  True love removes all fear, allowing real peace and contentment.

God
There are two kinds of power in the Universe, constructive, and destructive.  A close bond with a spouse allows us to come to know God in a deeper way than we can without marriage.  The couple makes a complete human being, and together with God they are empowered to reproduce, taking part in creation with Him.  In every way, marriage brings with it the power of God, which is always constructive.  We cannot begin to understand God unless we share experiences with Him.  Marriage allows this to happen in two ways -- love and creation.

Children
Marriage naturally allows children into the world.  Children help the couple to experience more of life.  We learn more as we teach.  Parenting is the process of teaching the children, helping them to grow up in all areas of life: mental, emotional, spiritual, financial, physical, and so forth.  As the parents help their children to grow they not only learn a deeper love, but also improve themselves in all these areas.  Each child is different, and will necessarily give the parents different experiences.

Fun
Those who marry have more fun in life because they have more experience.  Each in a couple gets to live more as they experience the world of their spouse.  Moreover, they get to re-live their childhood as their children grow up and learn.  There is nothing more fun than going to plays, games, recitals, and other activities of children, and being totally interested and absorbed in the outcome.  Disneyland isn't fun unless you can bring a child.  Experiencing life through our children as they discover the world is truly fun!  Fun isn't fun unless it is shared.  Marriage allows us to share everything, making all of life fun.

Connection
Probably the best part of being married is having a connection with another.  We only really become complete and whole as we become one with our spouse.  The experience of unity is the most wonderful part of being human.  It is fulfilling like no other human accomplishment can be.  No amount of success, power, money, or fame could even come close to the fulfillment of marriage.  Feeling complete and whole, comfortable and content is worth thousands of times more than all the wealth in the world!  What is amazing is that every single individual has access to this connection no matter where, who, or what they are.

Happiness
Ultimately, the purpose of existence is happiness.  God has children, us, and provides for us, teaches us, and sacrifices for us so that we can be happy.  A man nor a woman can be happy alone.  Becoming perfect, or complete, requires a man and a woman, which make up a whole human being.  Marriage is the path to happiness.  It is hard, to be sure, in fact, it is the hardest endeavor of life because is requires the greatest sacrifice.  All other ventures in life are temporary, at best, and not nearly as fulfilling.  Even our children will, hopefully, grow up and leave us as they get married and become complete, raising their own children.  A marriage, however, is made to be forever as we become one with another, forming the foundation of happiness.

The price of marriage
The hard part of marriage is the sacrifice required.  The expectations of fulfillment, love and unity are not given to us by our spouse, but rather achieved as we sacrifice ourselves, giving up all we are in our heart in order to become one with her, or him.  The sacrifice of the heart is the wants, needs and desires that are deep inside.  "I want..." is a selfish way to live and doesn't lead to unity and happiness.  This is why "living together" or any other false marriage cannot lead to happiness.  None of the goals of marriage can be reached without the commitment.  Only as we give up all the things we want can we achieve this higher level of existence.  Unity is achieved only as this is desired more than everything else.  Marriage offers the most opportunities to learn to love, as well as the deepest love as we give up all that we are inside in order to become one with our spouse.  It is the greatest achievement of all of humanity.  It is more important than being a world leader, a spiritual healer, a philanthropist, or any businessman.  Those may be good, but achieving a marriage of unity is so far ahead, hands-down, millions of times better.  There is no comparison.

Of course it's hard, but anyone can do it.  There is nothing in the world to stop it.  While we can become distracted by the cares of the world such as money, business, children, play, friends, parents, and all the other things that can get in the way, these also must be sacrificed for unity to be achieved.  It is an accomplishment like no other.  It is worth all the sacrifices we make, a thousand times over.  But what is most amazing is that it is the right of every person on the Earth.  While our pride may make it hard, in reality it's the easiest thing in the world, and it is within the grasp of every individual.  It's as easy as letting go.  Indeed, marriage is unique as the only thing on the Earth worth all of our best efforts, while at the same time being simple.  It is the hardest and at the same time the easiest.  It is most uncommon and at the same time most common.  It is the best of humanity, and the only way to fulfillment.

The hardest part about writing this is to end what is endless, knowing that none will understand who have not experienced it.  Hopefully, these can believe that it isn't random, and have a desire to seek marriage, or if they are already married, to decide to put their marriage at the top of their list of things to do.  If anyone can hope for fulfillment and desire to achieve it, they can begin to work on it by letting go of their wants, needs, and desires so they can love.  It's that simple, but I can promise that such efforts will bring the most wonderful results!

Wednesday, December 16, 2015

Faith and Hope

As I read, I often come to "sticking points" which cause me to think.  One such place has been a talk given by Mormon, found in Moroni chapter 7.  It seems to have a contradiction that I have been unable to reconcile.  I now think I know.

The first part reads:
"And again, my beloved brethren, I would speak unto you concerning hope. How is it that ye can attain unto faith, save ye shall have hope?"  (Moroni 7:40)

Hope--> Faith
Without hope you cannot get faith.

Then, two verses later:
"...if a man have faith he must needs have hope; for without faith there cannot be any hope." (Moroni 7:42)

Faith --> Hope
If faith, then hope
No faith, no hope

It feels like without hope we cannot have faith, and without faith we cannot have hope.

The definition of hope is found in the intervening verse:
"And what is it that ye shall hope for? Behold I say unto you that ye shall have hope through the atonement of Christ and the power of his resurrection, to be raised unto life eternal, and this because of your faith in him according to the promise." (Moroni 7:41)

So, hope is the expectation of resurrection to Eternal Life, which comes through faith in Christ.

The definition of faith is given by Paul to the Hebrews:
"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." (Hebrews 11:1)   Another circle of faith connected to hope.  Hope comes first, then we get faith as we gain substance and evidence for that hope.  In other words, we develop faith by gaining knowledge and experience, or substance and evidence.  Faith in Christ is the evidence that only through Him can we hope for salvation.  It is a knowledge of the Atonement.  The better we understand the Atonement of Christ, the more faith we have.

Does faith come before hope, or does hope come before faith?

Maybe it's like this:
Your knowledge of the existence of a glorious resurrection brings you to desire that blessing -- or hope for it.
This desire (hope)  brings you to Jesus Christ, your only hope, to learn more about His Atonement and resurrection.
As you gain knowledge (faith) of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, and have more evidence, you receive the hope you desire.

Thus, hope brings you to faith in Christ, which faith then gives you that hope.
In other words, the hope of the possibility of a glorious resurrection causes you to seek Christ and develop the faith needed to actually receive that hope.

Hope --> Faith --> Hope

Thus, the reconciliation of the "which comes first" question is that there are two related, but distinct, senses of the word "hope."  They both have the same definition, but the first is the possibility, whereas the second is the assurance of a glorious resurrection to Eternal Life.  What brings the assurance is faith in the Lord, Jesus Christ and His Atonement and resurrection.  Without hope, or the possibility of Eternal Life we could not develop faith, and without faith we cannot have the hope, or assurance, of it.  Faith is sandwiched between hope!

Wednesday, December 9, 2015

Swimming in deep water

“Perhaps I am meant to swim in deep waters.... better deep than shallow!”
― Joseph Smith Jr.

In the early Church there was a great deal of persecution.  Christians were hated, beaten, tortured, hunted and imprisoned, and even killed.  Why would the Lord allow His people to be treated in such a manner?  Of course, for their benefit!  When people face persecution they must of necessity make a decision: "Am I in, or am I out?"  This decision is essential to being a Christian.  Each person who wants to be part of the Church of the Firstborn must make the decision to be in all the way, of his own free will and choice.  Persecution forces that decision immediately.  The willingness to endure all manner of pain and loss, even the peril of life, puts you all the way in the Church -- you must swim in deep water.

"In the fall of 1857, the nineteen-year-old Joseph F. was returning from his mission in Hawaii, and in California he joined a wagon train. It was a volatile time for the Saints. Johnston’s Army was marching towards Utah, and many had bitter feelings towards the Church. One evening several hoodlums rode into camp, cursing and threatening to hurt every Mormon they could find. Most in the wagon train ran and hid in the brush. But Joseph F. thought to himself: “Shall I run from these fellows? Why should I fear them?” With that, he walked up to one of the intruders who, with pistol in hand, demanded, “Are you a Mormon?” Joseph F. Smith responded, “Yes siree; dyed in the wool; true blue, through and through.” At that, the hoodlum grasped his hand and said, “Well you are the [blankety-blank] pleasantest man I ever met! Shake hands, young fellow. I am glad to see a man that stands up for his convictions”' (See Gospel Doctrine, 518).

If the Church is a pool, then all those who are baptized are swimming in it, some in the shallow end, and others, like Joseph F. Smith, in the deep end.  There were many who chose the world when faced with the decision, getting out of the pool entirely, rather than risk their lives.  Some of these became the greatest persecutors of those who stayed in.  When they got out of the pool, they got all the way out!  

Today, there is little, if any, persecution of the Saints.  For this reason all those who profess to be Christian could be wading in the shallow water at whatever level.  It's easy because there is nobody requiring that they go all the way in.  They may appear to be in by all outside indicators: they go to church, participate in service projects, pay tithing, and so forth.  It appears that they keep the commandments of God.  They're in the pool.  However, their hearts are not necessarily changed.  They may have designs on the things of the world, and be filled with lust, greed, envy, and all manner of lasciviousness.  They still live "in the world, but also of the world" on the inside.  They have excuses for not keeping the Sabbath Day holy such as, "I need to work and support my family!"  They trust in their own strength, or in their wealth, or their family.  Their feet are firmly planted on the bottom of the shallow end of the pool.

I know about this because it's the way I have lived for 50 years!  Wading in shallow water.  Appearing to be very much dedicated to God on the outside, but filled with the world in my heart.  I have desired the things of the world more than the things of God, with all the normal lusts of the flesh: money, pleasures, and the honors of men.  My desires are well-hidden because, as usual, I'm smarter than others; I'm still in the shallow end, but sitting on the bottom with only my head out of the water so I appear to be in deep water.

I'm ready to move on, to swim in the deep end.  I don't want to stay in the shallow end all my life.  I need to take the risk and give my all to the Lord, to follow Him into the depths of humility (pun intended) and give Him my whole heart.  Giving up the shallow water means giving up the support of the world.  This could be anything we have that we rely on for support: money, lands, houses, friends, family, talents, and so forth.  Swimming out into the deep water without a floatie or any means of support takes a great deal of faith.  I want to give him all, not holding anything back, putting my trust fully in Him to be my support as I go out into the deep and start to swim.

I will obey every word of God.  I will do anything.  I will suffer any discomfort, or persecution.  I'm willing to make that decision.  I will take the bullet.  I will walk the walk.  I will suffer ridicule and pain.  I would make the sacrifice, and give all to Him, gladly, willingly, and swim out into the deep water of my own accord.

The problem for me is, I don't have the advantage of diving, or getting pushed, into the deep end of the pool from the beginning; I got in a little at a time, getting my toes wet, then up to my ankles, then up to my knees, and so forth.  Now I'm ready to move in to the deep end, but I don't know how to swim!  I have to make decisions and willingly and voluntarily go all the way.  I need to give up my worldliness -- all of it!  ...But, there is no obvious choice.  I'm not threatened in any way.  I'm not being pushed.  I don't have to walk away from all my belongings, family, business, and things of the world.  I can keep everything so I don't know what to keep, and what to give up.

It's easy when everything is taken from us, losing our means of support.  We don't have a choice -- we just accept the will of God and do all we can.  But, the big question is, how do you sacrifice when it isn't forced on you?  Walking away from all your responsibilities, the job, earning money, supporting your family, employing others so they can support their families, and whatever else we do is not necessarily the sacrifice we need to make.  Do we willingly give up family, friends, food, music, money, or anything else of the world?  How do we know?  Does it mean quitting work to be homeless on skid row?  Do I move to Timbuktu and start a mission?  How is one to know what sacrifice to make?  Where is the deep end, really?

"And as for the perils which I am called to pass through, they seem but a small thing to me, as the envy and wrath of man have been my common lot all the days of my life... nevertheless, deep water is what I am wont to swim in. It all has become a second nature to me; and I feel, like Paul, to glory in tribulation; for to this day has the God of my fathers delivered me out of them all, and will deliver me from henceforth..."  Joseph Smith

The Lord will guide.  Everyone is different so we should ask Him what is needed.  He is faithful to answer every prayer.  Blessings may be hard.  We may be forced to make decisions, to choose between the things we want in the world, and the things of God.  It's the everyday choices to pray, read the Scriptures, love others, and do good.  It's found in small things, not necessarily in big sacrifices.  We may not be asked to walk away from all our worldly belongings, or face the business end of a gun.  Sometimes staying and improving our current situation, or helping others where we are is the deep water in which we must swim.  God knows.  He is the swimming instructor.  He is the lifeguard.  He has all the floaties!  He won't let us drown.  With His help, we can learn to swim in deep water.

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

The Real Choice

Everything we are choosing is not so much what happens to us, our circumstances, but rather the connections we make with our Creator.  We are choosing every minute whether this part of our life brings us closer to God, or farther away.
In ev'ry condition—in sickness, in health,
In poverty's vale or abounding in wealth,
At home or abroad, on the land or the sea—
How Firm a Foundation Hymn 85:2
This is true with every situation.

Wealth can bring you closer to God, or farther away.  No matter what the level of poverty we have in life, we are using that to choose to come closer to God, or farther away.  There is none that has any wealth, really.  We are all roughly equally poor.  In the Eternal sense of things we are all completely destitute and dependent, no matter what we think we own in the world.
Thou sayest, "I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing;" and knowest not that thou art
wretched,
and miserable,
and poor,
and blind,
and naked:  (Revelation 3:17)
Comforts can take us away from God, but wealth can also bring us to Him.  If the will of the Lord is that we have the things of the world, and we consecrate all we have to Him, to serve His purposes, then we could become truly rich with the riches of Eternity.  This is the real choice we have, not how rich or poor we are here on Earth.  We have no control over what we have, it is all given to us.  It is firstly His to give.  Nothing is "earned."  Nothing is "owned."  We really are, at all times while in mortality,
"wretched,
and miserable,
and poor,
and blind,
and naked:"
It is not the wealth that tears us away from God, but rather the "lusts of the eyes" -- the things we want.  This is just as true for those who have nothing of the world.  They are just as...
wretched,
and miserable,
and poor,
and blind,
and naked 
...as a "rich" person, but if they are greedy in their hearts, filled with envy and covetousness, lusting after the things that others own, their poverty will bring them away from God.  It is their choice.  It is the true choice we have.  It is the only choice.  Those who discover this truth can use their circumstance of "poverty or wealth" to further the work of God, and come closer to Him.

The choice is simple.  Those who don't have enough for their needs could choose to turn to the Lord to fill their needs.  As He does so, their faith in Him will be increased.  They will learn to put their trust in Him, and come closer to Him.

On the other hand, those who consider themselves wealthy would consecrate all they have to the work of the Lord.  They ask the Lord how He wants them to distribute their possessions.  They will seek those in need, and
"nourish them,
and did clothe them,
and did give unto them lands for their inheritance;
And... administer unto them according to their wants."  (Alma 35:9)
As thy do this, they learn to become closer to the Lord, and learn His ways.

This concept is true no matter what the circumstance.
"But wo unto the rich, who are rich as to the things of the world. For because they are rich they despise the poor, and they persecute the meek, and their hearts are upon their treasures; wherefore, their treasure is their god. And behold, their treasure shall perish with them also.
And wo unto the deaf that will not hear; for they shall perish.
Wo unto the blind that will not see; for they shall perish also
."  (2 Nephi 9:30-32)
The concept of "poverty and wealth" could be applied to all circumstances we may find ourselves in, such as health or knowledge.  Health is like wealth, whereas sickness is like poverty.  Those who are "learned" are as if they were wealthy in the knowledge of the world, whereas those who have no training are poor in knowledge.  No matter what it is, we are not deciding if we are going to be rich or poor, healthy or sick, learned or ignorant, but rather if we are going to use that circumstance to bring us closer to God, or not.

Being physically fit and healthy could, like the rich man, either lead us away from God by not being able to discover how needy we really are, or it can bring us closer to Him as we give our strength to serve His purposes, working hard to serve Him and our fellow-man.  If we are sick we may use that illness to choose to come closer to God by seeking healing from His hand, or turn inward, justifying all of our spiritual weaknesses because of our physical infirmities.

Those who are smart enough to go to school and get a higher education may consider themselves intelligent, but don't know that they are really ignorant compared to their Father, who knows all things.  Learned people often look down on those who don't have schooling, and they don't seek the mind and will of the Lord for their lives.  They consider themselves strong and independent, not needing to lean on the Lord for their support.
"When they are learned they think they are wise, and they hearken not unto the counsel of God, for they set it aside, supposing they know of themselves, wherefore, their wisdom is foolishness and it profiteth them not. And they shall perish."  (2 Nephi 9:28)
Just like the rich man, they are really ignorant, and in need of God for everything they know.  However, they aren't aware of their need.

This is just as much of a problem with the unschooled.  They may look with lust on learning, or be lazy or give up trying, and not learn anything.  Ignorant people, rather than turn to the Lord to find knowledge, will sometimes ridicule or despise those who are learned.  God is not a god of ignorance.  Growth is about learning and growing continually.  God has commanded us to "seek ye out of the best books words of wisdom; seek learning, even by study and also by faith." (D&C 88:118)  Thus, their ignorance could lead them away from God, or bring them closer to Him.  It's their choice.

If either one turns to the Lord they will use their circumstances to bless His children.  As knowledge grows, so does all of society.  "But to be learned is good if they hearken unto the counsels of God."  (2 Nephi 9:29)  This is the issue, really, no matter what our circumstances in life -- do we seek the counsel of God?

Understanding of what our choice is in life would make us see our circumstances differently.  All that we have, all that we know, and all that we feel, are merely means to help us to choose Him, no matter what circumstance we find ourselves in.  That is the real choice.

Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Endless

I sat in my car with a young man in the parking lot of a hotel.  We had intended to talk in the hotel lobby because he didn't want to go home where his mom was.  Instead, we stayed in the car.  He had attempted suicide the day before.  He cut himself multiple times and took sleeping pills hoping he would just bleed to death in his sleep.  He woke up with very little blood around him.  He was still alone, with nobody to call.  He felt awful, terrible, and horrible.  There was no way out of how he felt.  He just cried and cried.

A line segment has two ends.  Time has two ends.  Life on Earth has two ends.  We often call these "the beginning" and "the end."  While this is what we see, and is apparent, in reality there is no end.  Existence is really a line, but we only see one segment.  There are no ends, only stages.  You can't stop.  The train of life doesn't stop.  You can't get off.  You don't cease to exist.  Life has always been, and it keeps going even as there are constant changes.  You end one form, and move on to another, but the essence of who you are always was, and always will be.  We "lived" before our birth, and we will move on to other "lives" after we leave it.  There is no stopping this train.  There are no ends.

The young man said that even as he was trying to die, he knew it would not be the end.  He knew that his life would continue in another dimension, and that he would have to account for his actions.  He knew that he would still be himself, and be in the same situation of feeling horrible and being isolated.  He just wanted it to stop.  He wanted to cease to exist.  He wanted an end, but he knew that it really wouldn't be the end.

Many people want an end.  They don't like life for a thousand reasons, and want it to end, at least at some point.  This is pointed out in "retirement," where people try to bide their time until they die, the end.  "Live out my last days in peace."  Their "life" is already over, they've finished growing and learning, and working, now they can just sit back and enjoy the fruits of their labors.  The end is near.  What they don't see is that it has already happened.

Anxiety and fear come from ends.  The modern physician is told to give people fear of ends so that they will be motivated to obey.  People obediently take their medication to "prevent the end" when all they really do is create more problems.  The irony is that most of these people who fear "the end" are already finished, they just want to prolong their goodbyes.  They have already given up on life.  They are no longer learning and growing.  They don't take on new responsibilities, learn new languages, work to make the world a better place, or love more people, rather they are entirely inwardly focused on the next cruise they can enjoy, food they can eat, or movie they can passively watch.  They are already as dead as they will ever be, because they will go on, but not to life

Work is a necessary part of life.  In spite of this, we want to be lazy and avoid work.  There are many forms of work that fulfill a life, such as using muscles and brains to help others, trading our specialty for theirs, planting, growing, harvesting those things we need to survive, or loving, giving, learning and growing in any way.  There is no end to the work of life.  There is no retirement.

Life is growth.  Life is work.  Life is hard.  M. Scott Peck, MD, a psychiatrist, noted in his book, The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth
“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”
What is so important about this concept of immortality is that it is horrible if you are not living, growing, learning, improving and loving.  If all you have is self-absorbed whims, your life goes on as a separate, single, independent entity that cannot grow, improve or change.  The excitement of life is change, and yet dead people avoid change.  You will go on, but you will never change.  It's hell, which is worse than not existing.  A dead, isolated existence is just yucky!  Existence continues, but life does not -- unless we choose to live.

The way to end the pain is not to try to stop it.  This only creates more frustration, pain, sorrow, anxiety, and depression.  It is hopeless to stop it.  You must accept it. You must go on, you will go on, your only choice is how you will go on.  If you choose to go on living you will connect with more and more people.  Fulfillment in life is connections with others.  These are made as we learn and grow.  We need others to teach us, and we need to teach others.  People who never marry or have children have a more difficult time growing up than those who marry and have children.  Nevertheless, they can choose to take on the responsibility for the welfare of others and still learn and grow.  They live.  They don't want to stop.  They don't want ends.

"Salvation" is not the same as immortality -- that is a given -- but rather Eternal Life is salvation  To continue to live, learn, grow, and improve is what constitutes and defines life.  If the end comes and we are already dead, we will not suddenly get life, but rather just continue on the path we have chosen.  The young man knew this, and was very glad his stupid plan didn't work.  I just wanted to say so much to him.

Live the hardness.  Take on the responsibility.  Live life to the fullest.  Give your whole heart.  Give all your energy.  Love all you can.  Learn all there is.  Be the motivation for others.  Go to school.  Play your music.  Get married, have children.  Sure it's hard.  Of course you will have setbacks, pain, problems, "speed bumps," and all sorts of "failures."  That's life.  That's how we learn.  That's how we grow.  The endless life is the only life worth living.  Don't try to stop it.  Push ahead.  Go, Go, Go!  Move!  Act!  Do it!  Don't stop, and don't try to stop it.

As soon as you decide to live, you will remove all the fear of life, and ends.  Life will go on forever.  Love will be a possibility.  And, immortality will become Eternal Life.  Because we can choose, if we are willing to put in the effort, for life to be ENDLESS!

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

The 3 Principles of "Happily Ever After"

Most of our fairy tales and love stories include a couple that falls in love and lives "happily ever after."  We feel slighted if we don't get such closure in a story.  We know love is important, but the stories don't always teach the true principles of what it takes to achieve that end.  The basis of a relationship is often looks.  When their eyes meet across the room and they instantly know it's love.  They didn't have to work at this love, it just happened.  When we are dating, looking for a mate, we often expect that love will just happen as we traverse the crowd of singles.  A glance, a smile, just having that look is what we seek.

It's common for single men and women in their thirties to wonder why they aren't married.  They often want to get married, but never fall in love because they don't need anyone.  Those needs are often filled by friends, roommates, classmates, and an endless stream of boyfriends, and girlfriends, all of whom are interesting, but who don't seem to have chemistry.  Since they don't need anyone, they will not "fall in love" with anyone.  Love, at least the immature love of cathexis or infatuation, is based on a belief that a person could fill your needs.

But reality is way different; true love is actually based on principles that we can learn and practice.  Rather than leaving everything to chance, there is a good way to seek a mate that will almost assure a "happily ever after!"  There are three things that are most important in this endeavor, that far outweigh "falling in love."  These are simple, easy to learn, and available to everyone.  They are no mystery.

1. Have the same goals
2. Respect and admire their character
3. Enjoy their company

All three are essential to having a great relationship.  If you find an excellent person with matching goals and great character, but with an annoying personality any kind of relationship would be a struggle.  If you have the same goals, but do not have character to reach them, then the relationship will not work.  If you both have excellent character and enjoy each other's company, but have different goals you will only grow further apart as you progress towards your individual goals.

Goals
When we are dating we think it's so important that we like the same things and are able to "finish each other's sandwiches," enjoy the same restaurants or movies, have the same workout routine, or have the same hobbies.  This is much less important than knowing your own ultimate desires, as well as his or hers.  Those who start a relationship with a lot in common, but have divergent goals will move further apart and end up separated, emotionally or physically -- or both.

The first thing to consider is the goals of your love interest.  The best match are those who have the same goals, who are headed in the same direction, and want to be in the same place.  The two of you could be worlds apart now, but if you have the same goals you have a good chance of coming together.  On the other hand, having a lot in common, except your ultimate goals, is a recipe for disaster.  This is why those who are of the same religion make a better match.

Some very important goals right now, may not be so important later.  A young person may be focused on education and building an income, for example.  It is common to assume that because a couple is in agreement on these, they are compatible.  This, however, may change.  Another common issue is a desire for children.  Some may desire to have a large family, but while it's important to have some compatibility in this, we don't always know if we are able to have children.  Thus, the important goals to look for aren't just what we want out of life, but rather ultimate goals.

When I was thrown into the dating scene at the old age of 47 I was overwhelmed by the plethora of options.  I didn't know what to do!  I could end up with a younger woman and start a family all over again, or someone with multiple children, or anything in between!  I wasn't sure how to choose, or what to do to begin.  One day I was with a friend who lost her husband, and we were discussing eternal things.  She had been going to the Temple every week while her husband was sick to help her keep in touch with God.  A light went on at this point, because this is exactly what I was doing while going through my divorce.  Over a short time I realized that she had the same ultimate focus that I did -- we had the same goals.  We have been married for over four years and it just keeps getting better as we come closer to each other because we are striving to reach our mutual goals.

The way to know our own goals, or those of others is to ask:
  • What do you love more than anything?
  • What do you have your heart set on?
  • What are your basic needs?
  • What are your deepest desires?
  • What is really important to you?
  • What would you sacrifice everything else in the world for?
  • What would you die for?
  • What do you live for?
The answer to these questions will reveal our ultimate goals.  Many people don't even know their own true answer because their heart is hidden from themselves.  Thus, it may take a period of observation to see what the other person sacrifices for to understand their deepest desires.  This is the work of dating.

Character
Rather than looking for physical attraction, or that "je ne sais quoi" we need to consider the character of the individual.  The belief that another could fill your needs would be wrong if he or she doesn't have character.  In the movie Into the Woods, Cinderella marries Prince Charming and finds out he's been unfaithful to her.  When she confronts him, he replies, "I was raised to be charming, not sincere!"  He only thought of his own needs.  He wasn't able to truly love because his selfish nature wouldn't allow him to keep his promises.  How many couples end up in this situation!  This is the importance of knowing the character of the person you might consider marrying.

Being a good judge of character requires you to get to know a person.  We don't automatically know what a person is made of, we must watch them closely in a variety of situations.  Stress is the best way to judge character.  One of my friends was on a surfing date in Mexico with her boyfriend.  They went into a gas station and came out just in time to watch the truck with all of their stuff get stolen.  Her date watched his new pickup with his favorite surfboards speed off into the dusty Baja desert for a minute before he turned to her and said, "Well, I guess we need to find another way home!"  She was so impressed with his composure under such stress that she decided then and there she wanted to marry him.  They've been happily married for 20 years.

Signs of good character include:
  • Keeping commitments 
  • Continuously learning
  • Unselfishness
  • Lack of addictions
  • Grace
  • Cares for his/her own health
  • Forgiving
  • Happy
  • Clean and organized
  • Not easily provoked to anger
  • Loyalty/faithfulness
  • Courage
It's not that one would have to be perfect in all of these categories, nobody is, rather it is important to understand them and decide which are most important to you.  Character is the foundation of trust, which is essential to love.  If there is a certain character trait you admire, then that is important to you so that is the one you start with.

Enjoyment
The last, but probably no less important, is to find some one you enjoy being with.  A friend you can talk with, and have fun together is essential to building a relationship.  Having someone who has great character, and shares the same goals, but you don't enjoy their company may not form a great relationship.  There needs to be some form of "chemistry" that brings enjoyment.  Someone you might be friends with no matter what.

It's important to understand that we don't always like, or want to be with any one individual.  There will be times that it will be necessary to be apart, but when you come back together you will still enjoy the other's company.  It isn't necessary to second-guess yourself if you want other friends, or have other interests that don't include your spouse.  The important thing is that you enjoy the company of your significant other.

The Dating Game
Knowing these three principles can open up a whole new world of possibilities -- and impossibilities -- for dating.  We fall in love when we believe that the other will be able to fill our needs.  This belief doesn't have to be a mystery, or out of our control.  We can decide to fall in love when we know that our intended one has the qualities that truly can fill the need.  Knowing the goals, and character of one we enjoy being with will assure that love will not only happen, but will be lasting and continuously growing.  This knowledge puts us in control of our love life!

Don't leave love to chance.  Knowing what we're looking for will change the odds dramatically of successfully finding a "soul mate."  After all, what is a soul mate if it isn't someone we respect, admire, share the same goals, and enjoy being with?  This is the person that truly can fill our deepest need, that of a connection, or becoming one.  Unity of heart is the end result of following these three principles, which is "true love" and leads to our own "happily ever after."

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Glory!

I have pondered on the definition of the word "glory."  It is respect, admiration, power, and love.  The more people love us, the more glory we have.  Love is what we give to others, the sacrifices we make for their benefit, and glory is the love others give to us, giving their will.  Love is what we give, glory is what we receive when people submit to us.

Give God the glory
To love God is to give Him glory.  This is done through obedience to His will.  When we say in our hearts, "not my will, but thine, be done," we are giving Him glory by making a sacrifice of our own will.

The Great Jehovah was in the pre-mortal worlds  when two plans were presented for the benefit of mankind, the spirit children of God.  Lucifer had a plan to glorify himself by forcing all to go through mortality completely obedient and return to God unscathed.  All would be required to sacrifice their will to him, and Lucifer would be above all.  God had a very different plan that allowed all to choose who they were going to follow.  Jehovah followed God, and agreed to be the example and sacrifice Himself so everyone else could choose to follow Him.  He submitted to the will of God, giving Him the glory.

Since we are given freedom, mistakes would be made.  All of God's children chose to "take the forbidden fruit" -- except for Jehovah -- and are cast out of Heaven.  Those who made a covenant with God to obey Him were sent to Earth, those who didn't were cast into hell as evil spirits.  The covenant allows God to give us a gift of a physical body since we pledge: "if you will give me a body, I will only use it for Thy purposes."  Everyone who comes to Earth and is born into a body has made this covenant, because those who refused remain spirits forever, never possessing a physical body.  Jehovah never took the fruit, but rather came to Earth of His own accord, with the same promise to be obedient to our Father in Heaven.

The problem is, when we get to Earth, we totally forget our former life, and the covenant we made.  Our bodies are wonderful instruments, that feel, taste, smell, see, and hear all that is in the physical world.  We have emotions and brains.  We can manipulate our physical environment, doing all sorts of wonderful things -- building, dancing, writing, singing, learning, and growing continually.  The greatest of all, is that we can love, touch, and feel another.  It's so easy to get so involved in the wonder of our bodies to forget about where we came from, why we're here, and where we're going when our mortal life is through.  Most people are just trying to get their needs filled, or the desires of their heart, assuming that God wants what they want -- "God wants me to be happy, and this makes me happy..." is the mantra of the day.

Jesus is our Example
In order to give God the glory, we would have to do as Jesus did: "Saying, Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done." (Luke 22:42)  He did not want to suffer in the Garden or on the Cross, but He was willing to go through it in order to glorify God.  Because of what He did we can also give up our own will and be obedient to the will of God, glorifying Him.

The process of subjecting our will to the will of God is often long and difficult.  It requires  the same four steps that all improvement requires:


  1. A goal.
  2. A plan.
  3. A commitment.
  4. A sacrifice.


There is no way to improve anything without going through these steps, it doesn't happen randomly.  There is always a goal, always a plan, always a commitment, and always a sacrifice.

The Goal is Eternal Life
Life is growth.  That means we can continuously be growing forever, reaching levels of knowledge, wisdom, power, and love that we cannot even imagine now.  Those who remain inside themselves, continually seeking their own desires are choosing death.  Their foundation is their own heart, what they want.  However, those who want to live get outside of themselves, put aside their own needs, and look for a Mentor to guide them on paths they don't know.

The Plan is the Plan of Salvation
The Plan of Happiness is the same one given by our Father in Heaven before the world was created.  There is only one plan.  The path is strait and narrow.  It is very specific.  It is simple: give up what you want, your deepest, heartfelt desires, and accept the will of God.  That's it.  It's simple.  However, it is quite a process to do.  We must be able to know the will of God, which is a difficult learning experience because, "My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord." (Isaiah 55:8)  So, the process of learning the thoughts and ways of God is a long and difficult one.  It may take a lifetime, or more.  All of the parts of the plan center around learning and doing the will of God.

The Commitment is Baptism
Baptism symbolizes the death of the body, and re-birth of us into the will of God.  This is the same covenant we made in Heaven before we came to Earth, but there is a difference.  The covenant there was made in the spirit to God in His presence.  Thus, the spirit is already subject to God.  On Earth, the covenant is made with the body.  Baptism must be done in the body, in the flesh, in the physical world, in physical water in order to be valid.  In doing so, we promise our body to God, subjecting the flesh to the spirit, and becoming one.

The Sacrifice is the Heart
The symbolism of the heart is our deepest desires, the motivation for life, and all we do.  Everything we think, like, say, and do has a basis in the heart.  That which we love must be sacrificed in order to do the will of God.  It feels like death.  This is a "broken heart, and a contrite spirit," both of which are required to follow the plan.  God will not take our heart from us, it must be a willing sacrifice.  This fourth step is exemplified in the following scripture:

"For the natural man is an enemy to God, and has been from the fall of Adam, and will be, forever and ever, unless he yields to the enticings of the Holy Spirit, and putteth off the natural man and becometh a saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord, and becometh as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love, willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon him, even as a child doth submit to his father." (Mosiah 3:19)

Glory to God
When we go through these steps, and take upon ourselves the name of Christ by doing as He did, submitting to the will of God, we glorify God.  When we help others follow these same steps we also glorify God.  We love God by doing His will, giving Him the glory.  In doing so, we receive His glory.  As Christ is glorified by God, so will all those who follow Him.  Our greatest glory is His glory, for we receive all that He has.  Love is what you give to others; glory is what you get when others love you.  The ultimate glory, then is to be loved by God.  When God introduced Jesus Christ to the Nephites, He said, "Behold my Beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased, in whom I have glorified my name..." (3 Nephi 11:7)  This kind of has a new meaning, doesn't it?

Saturday, September 5, 2015

How True Love Brings Joy

Yesterday a middle-aged executive came in for a physical exam.  His only concern was a lack of libido, and he was wondering if a shot of testosterone would fix it.  He's successful in business, he has a nice family, and a beautiful wife to whom he is faithful.  He eats well, exercises daily, and is otherwise healthy so it doesn't make sense to him that he should struggle with this issue.

Young men have a sex drive that is similar to everyone's hunger drive for food.  When a person is really hungry, food that was previously unappetizing becomes gourmet, such as caviar, truffles, and escargot.  In the same sense, men who are starved for affection will go to any lengths to get what they need.  When young men get married they become very attached to their wives, partly because she continually fills this need.

As we age, however, things change.  The hunger or desire wanes, and many men complain of decreased libido.  Maturity changes our needs.  We no longer just need a sexual encounter, now we need a connection.  Young men give love for sex, older men have sex for love.  The need is totally different, in fact, opposite.  The young man is selfish in getting his needs filled, but the older man needs a connection from the heart in order to feel sexual.  It's more about the connection; mature intimacy is the expression of a connection from the heart.  The young man wants a physical connection while the mature man seeks true love.

Maturing in love
Immature love is based on need; we love someone or something that either fills our needs, or we believe could fill them.  This is how we can "fall in love" with someone we don't know -- we only need to believe they could fill the need.  Immature men look at women with this in mind.  The question is always implicit or explicit, "Could she fill my needs?"  If the answer is, "Yes," then he could fall in love with her.  She will look beautiful to him.  In many cases this is reversed, just because she looks beautiful he believes she could fill his needs, and falls in love with her.  He doesn't have to know her at all.

The effect of immature love is that as long as each fills the needs of the other, they remain content in the relationship.  There is a "give-and-take."  Possession is inherent in this arrangement.  Young men easily become jealous of their wife, guarding their own territory, or protecting their needs.  They are willing to "protect and provide" for the wife that fills their need, or, as one author put it, "to swim through shark-infested waters to bring her a glass of lemonade."  This is the kind of love that most songs, poetry, and romantic stories portray.

Mature men, however, have a completely different way of relating to women.  The needs of a mature man are not just sexual, but rather a sense of unity and true love.  They need a connection from the heart.  She becomes his need, his heart, and his ability to feel.  They become one because the wife provides a heart for her husband.  This is his need.  Without her, he cannot feel.  He begins to understand the difference between a physical need, and the emotional need.  As his emotions grow, his needs change.  He now wants, and needs, an emotional bond to fill his heart.  He understands that only having a physical relationship keeps him lonely; while a sexual encounter could make him feel connected briefly, like a piece of candy fills the need for food, he now sees that his heart can be filled forever with a true connection.  The candy is no longer sufficient, he wants real, nourishing, food -- a heart.

A difficult transition
The transition from immature love to a mature love is also a subject of many books, poems, songs, and stories.  It's a hard transition, and many don't survive it.  Those who want their relationship to continue on as before, filling each other's needs, often go outside of the relationship to fill them, ending in tears.  The promise wasn't fulfilled because they didn't stay with the program, causing bitterness and anger.  Couples fight for one reason, and one reason only; they are asking the question, "Do you love me?"  If they don't get the answer they need, they become insecure in the relationship, creating more problems.  Without this security, there is no way to transition from immature to true love.

A wife who doesn't have a heart because she is calloused from abuse will be unable to provide for this need.  Thus, a man protects his wife's heart and would never hurt her in any way.  He also wants a woman who hasn't given her heart to another.  If she has trauma from previous relationships, she may have a hard time giving her heart to her husband.  Women raised in a modern society become like men, seeking political power and sexual relationship so they can keep their hearts.  They live on the emotional candy of orgasm.  Some have multiple lovers before they ever get married.  Such a woman can relate well to an immature man, having a platonic sexual relationship, but will not be able to form a mature relationship because she cannot give her heart, only her body.  The couple, then, doesn't have a heart.  They may be married for many years just continuing to fill each other's needs in a physical relationship, but never making a connection from the heart.

In order to find true love each of the couple must let go of the very needs that brought them together.  Needs keep them selfish because each requires the other to fill them.  Thus, the very existence of needs prevents true love.  Women most often need strength, stability, and support -- financially and otherwise, while men need sex.  Thus, as a man gets older he may lose his desire, or ability, for physical intimacy which initiates the transition to true love.

Choosing true love
Sometimes a spouse becomes disabled, and is no longer able to fill the needs of the other.  In our society, we expect, and even encourage the one who remains intact to leave the relationship.  The expectation is that if one is not getting his needs filled, he is no longer bound to stay.  However, we find that those who do stay, putting aside their own needs and tending to the needs of their partner, become stronger in love.  Those who have such trials often say, "I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but I wouldn't trade it for anything!"  Love comes not from filling needs, but rather by sacrificing those very needs.

Another option is to choose to love.  This is done in the same way, by sacrificing our own needs and seeking instead to fill the needs of our spouse.  This, of course, requires that we come to know our wife in such an intimate way as to know what she needs.  The default is to fill "wants," but that may be destructive to both the individual and the relationship.  When children are young, parents are mostly careful to distinguish between wants and needs for them.  The child who wants to eat only ice cream for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, is often disappointed that the parents will give them nourishing food instead.  Thus, the parents love their children.

The point of choosing to love is to change the focus from getting my needs filled to filling her needs.  The question of, "Do you love me?" needs to change to, "Do I love you?" and then, "How do I show that love?"  Helping our wife be secure in our relationship will help her to transition from immature love to true love because she will feel the ability to give her heart.  The more she has an open heart, the easier and smoother the transition from immature, to true love.  The man assists this by helping her feel secure.  He does not threaten, hurt or force in any way.  He doesn't become angry or grumpy.  He doesn't insist on his way, or his needs.  He would never have any form of intimacy outside of the relationship, not even to look at other women.  Things like flirting or pornography are so far from him because he no longer seeks these immature forms of love -- he wants only true love and knows that the heart of his wife is his only desire.  He doesn't go to the doctor to get testosterone, Viagra, or anything that would prolong the immature phase of their relationship.

Instead, he looks to help his wife feel secure in their relationship.  He protects the heart of his wife from all insults because her heart is the key to them becoming fully human.  He makes sacrifices for her.  He gives to her.  He loves her always.  He takes time away from those things he wants to do in order to spend time with her.  He asks questions to get to know her.  He asks what she thinks and how she feels.  He seeks to know her heart -- her wants, needs, and desires -- and connect with her through them.  This is not selfish in the least, but rather self-sacrificing.  He doesn't do these things as a manipulation to get her to give him what he wants.  Rather, his intentions are to know her and give her security in their relationship.  Thus, the man is the leader, or the catalyst, that makes the transition from immature love to true love by making a willing sacrifice of his own needs.

Ménage à trois
True love doesn't just happen, rather it is sought and planned each step of the way.  However, since neither has ever experienced true love there is no way to plot a course to get there.  For this reason, every loving relationship requires a third member.  We think of a couple as two individuals coming together in unity and love, but true love requires a trio.  The third member is Love, "for God is love." (1 John 4:8)  Without God there is no way for unity to happen.  A couple can only become one in Him for two reasons.  First, only He knows the path to take from selfish love to true love, and second, He brings the security that is so vital to giving the heart.

The transition in a marriage from selfish love to true love is never automatic.  It's God who knows the way for us to become a single unit, a complete human being.  He shows us the way.  Without His hand in our relationship there is no way for us to even know what the next step would be.  We must put our trust in Him and take each step as it is given.  The path is different for each.  For some, it will be disability or hardship, and for others it will be promptings of how to put his wife above his own needs.  In some cases, losing the desire for sexual gratification is the next step -- though this may be frightening to many men because he feels it's the only thing binding him to his wife.  He must put his trust in God and continue on in spite of his weakness.  This is different for each couple so no "How-to book" will be adequate to show them the way.  The couple only has God to guide them.

The other reason it is so essential to include God in our marriage is that He has the power to fill all of our needs.  Once each of us comes to love God and trust in Him, He fills our needs, allowing each of us to be free to love.  When we no longer need one another we can give of ourselves from the heart.  The Comforter gives assurance to us as we repent, or let go of our carnal nature, allowing any sacrifice to be made.  With the assurance of God, a man may easily let go of his youthful needs, and his wife will feel secure and be free to give her heart.  In this way God becomes an integral part of our relationship.  The three make us whole, complete, and finished.

Becoming complete
A man is not a whole human being any more than an bee is a complete organism.  The individual bee is dead without the hive, and a man is lost without his woman -- and God.  The three of them make a complete human being that has infinite potential.  True love brings with it things that a selfish individual could never imagine: kingdoms, principalities, powers, dominions, and infinite connections with all that exists.  The hive truly is amazing, compared to the individual bee.  True love is worth all the sacrifice that could ever be made.  A middle-aged man going to the doctor to try to get his libido back is so backward, regressive, and provincial.  If instead he chooses to take the path of true love, he will find new worlds of light, happiness, peace, and joy.  For, "men are, that they might have joy." (2 Nephi 2:25)

Saturday, August 29, 2015

Strength in Weakness

A couple of experiences recently caused me to think about weaknesses.  Yesterday a young missionary came to my office because she had headaches the week before and felt weak and dizzy, which we determined to be low blood sugar.  Upon questioning, I found that she had many other problems since starting the mission: weight gain, acne, bloating, sleep problems, depression, fatigue, and irregular, painful, menses.  We discussed how all of these point to an adrenal hormone imbalance, and how it happened from all of the changes of being a missionary.  She had lots of stress, poor diet, and many other changes that brought on this weakness.  I explained that she would struggle with this all of her life, which she could control only by maintaining a strict diet, and stress-reduction techniques.  If not, she would have all of the same problems she was experiencing, and would gradually get worse.

The other was a friend who called me the other day because she needed help with her faith in God.  "I have never had a prayer answered," she sobbed.  I have known her long enough to know that isn't true so I told her some things where she had a witness, but she said, "I don't see it."  Immediately I understood that she had a spiritual blindness and deafness.  She couldn't see the hand of the Lord in her life, nor could she hear His voice.  I asked her about it, and she said this has been a problem since childhood.  "I want it to be true, but I don't believe it," she said.  "As a child I prayed, but the answers never came."  She didn't have evidence in her mind, or rather, didn't see the evidence she had.  She just couldn't see that every prayer she ever prayed was answered.

A blind person will always be missing experiences that are common to those who see.  Color, light, and the ability to sense distant objects are not going to be a part of their lives.  They must live without them, and rely on others to help them through life.  The concept of a rainbow will not have a lot of meaning, no matter which metaphors or language is used.  In the same sense, one who is spiritually blind requires the help of those around them to keep them going, but they may never actually have a personal experience and therefore may never really understand.

We need weaknesses
The Lord said, "And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them." (Ether 12:27)

The first part of this scripture is interesting.  It is about "why bad things happen to good people," or why we have weaknesses.  The conditional statement reads: "...if men come unto me [then] I will show unto them their weakness."  Before we come to the Lord, we are ignorant of any weakness.  This is why when people turn to the Lord they get more hardship, trauma, and problems in their lives.  Humility is a requirement for salvation so when people begin to seek the Lord, He first gives them situations that brings out their weaknesses.  He shows them what they already have, but weren't aware of.

Some people have so much pride they quit.  They cannot bear to see the truth of what they are.  They need to feel like they are in power.  They say it's too hard, and God isn't answering prayers, feeling they are worse off since coming to the Lord.  It was better to be ignorant because you get a "pass" and don't have to suffer through a broken heart.  While this is not exactly true, many use this reasoning to reject the help of God.

Others turn to the Lord in word only, and assume God will make them strong so they will have no weakness -- every ill will be healed by Him.  They feel they can do no wrong, keeping their pride, and remaining ignorant of their weaknesses.  They don't really want to know God so He doesn't show them their weaknesses.

Clearly, our weaknesses are a gift from a loving, kind, and perfect Father in Heaven to help us to come to Him.  He gives them to us for our benefit, and shows them to those who desire to know Him.  Without weakness, we may not have the humility to seek His help in our lives.

Healing our weaknesses
The last part of the Scripture above explains that we may never, in this life, overcome our weaknesses, but persist in trying anyway.  Moroni, the prophet who wrote it, saw his weakness in writing and was worried that we would mock him because he was not a good writer.  He knew he could speak with power that would carry the words to the heart of all who hear, but he could not write because the language he was using had odd word placement.  He saw his weakness in writing and complained to the Lord.

The amazing thing about this is that Moroni continued to see his weakness throughout his life.  God did not make him mighty in writing, or heal the weakness in him.  What I find most interesting is that his writing is some of the most powerful and easily understood in all of scripture!  He kept the weakness, but God turned it into a strength when the language was translated into English.

I had assumed that God helps us to overcome our weaknesses and makes us strong.  However, that is not the case with all infirmities.  I thought that if I was humble, then God would make me strong where I was weak.  That's not what He says: "...then will I make weak things become strong unto them."  In fact, the Apostle Paul says he was trying to overcome a "thorn in his side" and was told that it would keep him humble so the Lord could save him.  Moses never overcame a speech impediment, but his writings are powerful.  Some weaknesses are to be maintained for our good.  Perhaps my weakness, my blindness, my issues, my problems, and the things I lack will not be healed or resolved, but rather I will persist in spite of them, and trust in the Lord that He will make up for what is missing.

Repenting of sins
One bumper sticker reads, "Christians are not perfect, just forgiven."  Christians, and others who believe in a loving God, often believe that the persistence of weakness throughout life includes sins.  We are told that Christ suffered for our sins, and that we are sinners and fall short of the glory of God.  We then believe that since Christ can forgive sins that we will continue to sin all of our lives.  We even lump them together in prayers: "...forgive our sins and weaknesses."  Many feel that they will always be sinners, assuming that Christ will forgive them of their continuing sinfulness.  However, this is not the truth.

While He makes weaknesses strong, He most assuredly does not make sins into strengths.  We can be forgiven of sins, but only as fast as we repent, or change, and give up the sin entirely.  "By this ye may know if a man repenteth of his sins—behold, he will confess them and forsake them." (D&C 58:43)  We actually have to repent of all our sins and have a mighty change of heart so that we no longer have any disposition to do evil, but to do good continually.  Sins are acts of disobedience to the Holy Ghost.  We cannot be saved in sin.  We cannot return to God in our disobedient state.  Repentance is a requirement.  We must repent of all our sins until our "garments are cleansed and are spotless, pure and white." (Alma 5:24)  There is no pass for sins.

While we have to give up all sins, the weaknesses we may have to keep.  Moses, Paul, and Moroni repented of all their sins, but still had weaknesses in the flesh.  The missionary will need to repent of all her sins, and still may have an abnormal adrenal gland.  My friend must turn from her sinful ways, but she may still be spiritually deaf and blind, needing others to tell her when her prayers are answered.  When we repent, our sins are forgiven, "though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow." (Isaiah 1:18)  However, the weaknesses of the flesh may persist throughout our lives to keep us humble.  Humility brings salvation.  Salvation is strength.  So, strength comes from humility.  This is how the Lord makes our weaknesses into strengths.

Sunday, August 23, 2015

The Few

Yesterday my daughter called and wanted to know how she could feel better about being obedient to the will of the Lord.  She wanted to want to do God's will, instead of just doing it because she had to.  She explained how hard it was to move forward in the Spirit because there were so many things she wanted to do that she knew she shouldn't.  She didn't do them because she had to remain obedient, it's her nature, but she wanted to want to be obedient.  She wanted others to know how hard it was to be her, to change, to submit to the will of the Spirit, instead of doing what she wanted to do.  There is nobody to share it with, to commiserate with, who would understand the deepest feelings of her heart, and know her pain and heartbreak.  She felt so alone.  It feels so hard.

Faith is persistence and steadfastness not because of how we feel, but rather in spite of it.  The greatest miracle in the world is not healing the sick, causing the blind to see, the lame to walk, or even raising the dead.  No, the greatest miracle is a single change of heart.  When we submit to the will of God, through thick and thin, pain and suffering, against our own desires, our heart is changed.  The process of going through this change is the greatest work of man.  People make the promise left and right, starting on the path, but faint by the way and fall because they cannot do it.  "The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." (Matthew 26:41)

The heart, as defined by the Scriptures, refers to our desires, or what we want.  We are all different, but there are a few common desires among us.  We want ease, comfort, and things we like.  We also want a connection with our Father in Heaven.  We want the things of the Earth, and the corruptibleness thereof, as well as the things of Eternity.  It's not that we have a heart that only wants evil, but rather we are divided and have to choose to sacrifice one or the other.

Satan promises to give us what we want, but never can fulfill the promise.  So many people go for that promise like the poor to a gambling hall.  It is so enticing to have our dreams come true, to have all we want, and fulfill our deepest desires.  We put our whole heart into acquiring what we want in the world because it is so immediate and present.  Chemicals such as drugs, alcohol, and tobacco can give us comfort.  Money can buy anything in this world.  Intimate relations can seem like having a connection.  He even promises that we can have both the things of the world and the things of Eternity.  Few can resist a fruit that is so delicious to the taste, and so desirable!

On the other hand, God promises comfort in the strife, and Eternal Life in the world to come.  There is no immediate gratification of desires.  We have to put off the natural desires and sacrifice all we want of the world on the altars.  There is no exchange here, it is a very real and true sacrifice.  Everything of our heart must be burned up and entirely consumed to ashes.  Everything we love, want, need, or desire that isn't Eternal must be willingly placed on that altar of the Lord.  We can hold nothing back, or we cannot have the blessings of Eternity, and we will die, like Ananias and Sapphira.  (See Acts 5)

This is why it is so hard to continue in the Spirit to Eternal Life.  It's all about what we believe.  If we only believe what we can see, feel, smell, taste, and hear then we will seek comfort in the things of the world.  Many deny the part of their hearts that desires a connection with Eternity, spending their entire lives seeking the next thrill or sensual gratification.  They get fat and lazy if they aren't forced to work.  Few are willing to sacrifice all they want and desire in the world, including "houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands," (Matthew 19:29) and so forth.  As long as we are in mortality, there is no end to the sacrifices we must make.  Few are willing because they don't believe that it's possible.  They live by the adage, "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush."   However, this leads to death.

The few take the hard path.  "Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it." (Matthew 7:14)  The few persist and carry-on despite heartbreak and pain.  They don't seek deliverance from their trials, or gratification of worldly desires, but rather understand that God gives comfort in their sorrows.  They grieve.  They go hungry.  They have pain.  They mourn the loss of all they wanted in life, but put their trust in the Lord.  He gives them comfort in knowing Eternity.  He tells them the end of the journey is more than worth all of the sacrifices made -- in fact, the more sacrifices are made now, the better it is in Eternity.  Moreover, he gives tender mercies along the way -- beautiful vistas, knowledge, loving friends and family, and the good things of the Earth to help us on our way.  He assures us we are not alone, sending the Holy Ghost to be our guide and constant companion.  Certainly the straight and narrow path is hard, but the blessings are real, and worth every sacrifice of all that is temporal, temporary, and fleeting.

I know my daughter to be one of "the few;" she will not settle for less than the best.  She will not make exceptions, but will persist in the path in spite of how she feels.  The calling of God is rarely an "OH BOY!" experience; it's more commonly an "OH CRAP!" experience.  The early Saints didn't want to trek across the United States to live in the desert.  The prophets didn't want to be stoned, beaten, imprisoned, and killed.  Jonah didn't want to preach to Nineveh.  And, most of all, our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, didn't want to drink the bitter cup.  Nevertheless, He did what He was commanded, giving up what He wanted, suffering the will of the Father in all things, allowing all of us to be saved, in every sense of the word.  I pray for my daughter, that she will follow Him.

Monday, August 17, 2015

The Naked Athiest

The God Delusion by the atheist apologist, Richard Dawkins, an Oxford professor, reader, thinker, and prolific writer of atheist literature, should go down in history with all other religious texts.  He's not just an avowed atheist, but a man who believes it is the "right" way to be.  Therefore, the stated purpose of the book is to sway people to atheism.  He's very persuasive, I found myself leaning towards conversion several times as I was reading.  "Almost thou persuadest me to be a[n atheist]" (see Acts 26:28, With apologies to King Agrippa)

In this purpose he develops an interesting dilemma.  Having defined atheism as a belief system, and not just another belief system, but actually "the correct" one to which he can create converts, he transforms what was before just "not religious" into an equivalent religion.  He now has a doctrine, dogma, and, most importantly, us and them, dividing the world into two groups: 1) those who are ignorant and primitive because they believe in some sort of supernatural creator, and 2) those who are enlightened and have come to the conclusion that there is no God.  Thus, the book is filled to the brim with irony and logical fallacy.

Ignorance
The irony is that he has to come from a position of ignorance to prove his point.  For example, as a "monist" he can conveniently ignore, and thus remain blind to, the existence of a spiritual nature in man.  The physical mind likes the idea of atheism because it can rationalize, explain everything, and be freed from the tyranny of the spiritual mind.  Thus, it is very tempting to ignore the spiritual and pass it off as "hallucinations" or "hysteria."  Using a metaphor to generalize this argument it would sound like, "since I'm blind, light doesn't exist."  This doesn't work for those who see.  The blind can argue all day with any sort of sophistry to explain why those whose eyes work are deluded, but those who see will just laugh.  The atheist argues that all the seeing people in the world can become enlightened by giving up on the idea of the existence of light (no pun intended).  After all, there are so many blind people who contradict each other about the nature of light.  The personal evidence of the existence of light to a blind person is never forthcoming; he must have faith, which means garnering evidence from those who have vision.  Whether he is actually blind, or just closing his eyes doesn't change his ignorance.

The problem in the context of God is that less than one in a thousand actually see, and since there are so many who profess to know the Light because they've learned the terminology but don't really see, it's hard to know who can be relied-on to give good information.  The answer, according to the enlightened atheist, is to throw the baby out with the bath water; it seems easier to deny light exists than to do the work required to understand it. The ultimate ignorance is to ignore a whole part of our own existence.  As Søren Kierkegaard said, “There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn't true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true.”

Like Plato's cave, the atheist sits in a darkened room with a small window to the huge, beautiful and enlightened world outside, out of which he refuses to look; the window is high and it would take some effort to see out of it.  He will only believe what is in that room, immediately in front of him.  He denies that the window exists, "the light just filters in by itself," he reasons.  But rather than look he argues over the various rational theories that explain its existence.  Outside of this little room lies an infinite world of wonder, of life, of creation, of connection, and of beauty.  The atheist states that he has enough to deal with in his little room and spends his whole life trying to understand what he sees.  He is going to pontificate and argue about theories and ideas endlessly when just outside is the Light that makes everything immediately clear and obvious.  He sees no rational reason to believe in the world outside, it makes no sense because it's so different from his little room, and those who do believe are misguided, irrational, mistaken, uneducated, simple, and delusional.

The Holy Bible
The Bible is just a collection of some of the writings of prophets and is by no means comprehensive; there are many prophets referred to or quoted within it whose writings are not currently available.  Nevertheless, it has spiritual value.  The word "Holy" is added to the title for good reason.  "Holy" means "set apart" or "separate."  Why is it separate, and what is it separate from?  -- all the other books in the world.  Since all human words are filtered through the authors' perceptions, beliefs and experiences it could be said that we only write what we know -- autobiography.   Mr. Dawkins' book is his autobiography; he tells us that he created this religion because he has a problem with the law of chastity -- it's all about him.  In fact, in this sense the entire corpus of the written word is autobiography -- except for the writings of prophets.  The prophets speak or write in allegory, and only spiritual maturity can tell us what is to be taken at face value.  Just as you cannot give your gift of eyesight to one who is blind, the prophet cannot give his gift of spiritual vision to another.  Just as you had to use metaphors to describe a rainbow to the blind man, the prophet has to use metaphors to describe God, Heaven, and the infinitude of life.  If ninety-nine percent of the people misinterpret the metaphors, it doesn't mean they aren't valid; even if one hundred percent don't understand them it doesn't mean the prophets are wrong.

The Bible, for example, is used by atheists as evidence that there is no God because it doesn't teach in a way that is expected.  This wrongly assumes that the Bible is primarily a book about "how to live a moral life."  If God does something we don't expect or agree with, like kill one or a group of people, can we then logically conclude that He doesn't exist?  This reasoning is based on assumptions of an anthropomorphic god created in ones own head, not the true God.  Arrogance enters into the logical fallacy, "If I were God, I would do such and such, and since He didn't do that, there is no God."  Spiritually immature mortals understand no more of the mind of God than the suckling infant does of its mother.  The prophet clearly stated this, "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD."  (Isaiah 55:8)  The human brain is not capable of understanding something it has not experienced.  Back to the blind man:  It's impossible for the blind man to understand the stars in the night sky.  You can use words like light, twinkling, hue, points, billions, Milky Way, and so forth, but he's going to get a very different understanding from the one that you intend to relate.  To assume that, "if I don't understand it then it's wrong" is too tempting for the immature mind.  On the other hand, those who seek enlightenment assume their own ignorance and seek to understand why God acts as He does, thus producing spiritual growth, and coming to understand God.

Both believers and non-believers alike use to the Bible to bolster their positions.  Believers assume that if the Bible could be corroborated by historical records or archeology they would be in a better position while atheists assume that if it is all just mythology it could be ignored as untrue.  Both are false.  The Bible isn't history.  It isn't meant to be history.  Moses wasn't writing a history, and neither were the other prophets.  It's a spiritual work using images, people and events of the world as metaphors to explain spiritual things.  Spiritual immaturity is manifested by the need to prove or disprove the Bible by physical means.  It is as inane to use archeology to prove the Bible as to use tensor calculus to prove the Declaration of Independence.  It's equally vain to try to say it's false based on lack of evidence.  Evidence for what?  Spiritual information?  Those who try to prove the Bible to be false are using irrelevant arguments - using intellectual arguments to try to disprove spiritual things.  It's like dismissing Aristotle's Politics because it doesn't contain any information about quantum physics.

Dualist believers
When one is blind to the existence of the spiritual it's very convenient to lump all those who have spiritual understanding and/or desires into one category.  The reasoning then becomes much less complicated.  There are so many different concepts of god that it would take a lifetime to sort them out.  It's easier to put them together and prove a couple of them wrong so we can throw them all away -- the "straw-man" fallacy.  If Zeus and Thor are false gods then they all must be false.  Besides being illogical, this is just laziness.  It's easy to give up after a couple of tries.  My children often use this same reasoning after a brief attempt to find a lost article of clothing, "I've looked everywhere, but I can't find it -- it doesn't exist."  Mr. Dawkins is perplexed at the idea of groups of primitive people forming a religion to explain the miracles of modern technology; they needed an explanation for these "miracles" and their hypothesis was wrong.  Using the same reasoning he generalizes this example to explain away the existence of all religion as just a primitive way to explicate our ignorance -- the god of the gaps.  It follows, then, that when we fully understand our physical world, there will be no need for religion.  This argument has two big problems: 1) understanding how God works does not make him cease to exist anymore than the plummer ceases to exist when we understand how pumps and pipes magically bring an endless stream of clean water to the faucet; and 2) it is simply denial of what the real need is.  When we can explain every bit of our physical world (which is unlikely to be soon) there will still be a void deep in the heart of every person.  If it isn't filled with the true God, people will look for false gods to fill it.  Nothing will change.

One argument for atheism is that a belief in gods is destructive, bringing wars and atrocities of all kinds upon mankind over all of known history.  This is accepted as prima facie evidence that religion is wrong, therefore there is no God.  This is a very weak argument (though it's really not even an argument), "if false religion exists then there is no true religion, and no true God."  The fact that false religions exist everywhere in every time and place is not even remotely related to the existence of God.  Anyone can make up a religion.  For example, the communists in the USSR had to replace the Church with heroes for the people to worship, who immediately gave them up when the USSR fell and the Church was reinstated.  Moreover, it doesn't take belief in a god to be violent or bloodthirsty.  Karl Marx defined communism as an enlightened, atheistic system of economy and government, and more people have died in its name than under any other, including all the religious wars ever fought in history.  Somehow that doesn't sway the atheists or the communists that their belief system is wrong.  Besides, most, if not all, religious wars are really political wars (fought for power) in the name of religion; the belief system is just a tool to motivate the people to take sides, and not the reason for the war.

Though they are the only way to begin to understand God, personal religious experiences are easily rejected, "If you see something that I don't then you are having a hallucination."  I do this with schizophrenic patients.  One in particular who is very articulate can tell me that he sees things that I can't see.  I explain how this happens: the problem in his brain is like dreaming during the day.  His dreams are vivid and very real just exactly the way people dream at night and wake up in a cold sweat from a very real and scary nightmare.  To the body it's real in every sense of the word.  However, a personal religious experience is not the same, and must be personally experienced; the essence of it cannot be transmitted by words.  Once one person sees, he can help others, but only to show them how they can see for themselves - thus the need for missionaries.  How can we know the difference?  Personal spiritual experiences bring growth.  Growth never happens without effort.  Hallucinations create dependence.  Besides, anyone can experience God by going through the same steps, but this is not an option with hallucinations.

The question of "the Ultimate 747" puts a smug smile on the face of every atheist: who created God?  This is simply another anthropomorphic assumption of God.  The reality is, God isn't exactly like us, in fact, He has given His own origins -- Yahweh.  This means "self-existent" indicating his eternal nature; He has always existed.  What is time to a being not limited by the dimension of time?  Because of our existence within the fourth dimension, humans aren't endowed with the ability to think in infinite terms, we automatically want beginnings and endings.  We are therefore blind to the possibilities that exist outside of our "box" of time and can't understand eternity.  To assume that if we can't understand something it isn't possible is not only arrogant; it flies in the face of reason.  The evidence shows that there are many things that cannot be understood that exist.  Return to the blind man who cannot understand light except in metaphor, or a deaf person who cannot understand a Beethoven sonata.  Why don't we insist that our five-year-olds begin math by learning calculus?  Mr. Dawkins' own admission that he (or anyone else, for that matter) cannot understand quantum physics, yet accepts it on faith based on the evidence of its predictive value, indicates that truth may, at times, be difficult or impossible to understand while we are yet untutored.  If indeed God does exist outside of the fourth dimension as He has stated, the "Ultimate 747" argument falls apart.

Defining truth
What is truth?   Maybe truth is what everybody believes; if everyone agrees that something is true then it is.  This isn't reasonable because even the things that everyone has agreed-on in the past have turned out to be wrong.  Then maybe truth is what predicts future events.  If I have a theory that predicts what will happen in the future it can be taken as fact.  The Greek model of the Universe predicted accurately the position of the stars at future dates, but was really not true at all.  Then maybe truth is whatever is logical and rational, as Mr. Dawkins seems to imply.  This would be very dangerous to assume because philosophers have tried for thousands of years to arrive at truth by this means.  No.  Truth cannot be proven to another.  We can only seek and find it ourselves.  When the atheist ignores the duality of existence he is limiting himself to only what his physical senses can perceive.  Any truths outside of the physical will then be out of his reach.  He is left to be perplexed, as Mr. Dawkins stated he is, at the words of the prophets and the spiritual senses of the rest of humanity.

Truth is things as they are, independent of our senses, ideas, feelings, or interpretations.  It cannot be given to another in any realm, intellectual or spiritual; all we really transfer is belief.  We are therefore only able to seek truth and find it for ourselves.  All truth is arrived at in the same way.  It starts with belief (hypothesis), which may be based on experience or not.  After one has a belief he seeks evidence for it.  As he gathers evidence, the belief may be modified or even changed completely, and thus eventually arrives at truth.  (Ideally, but as Socrates lamented at the end of his life, "I only know that I know nothing.")  Without belief evidence is meaningless, which is why only individuals who believe and seek for themselves find truth - it cannot be given to another.

All we can ever pass on to others is our autobiography - our own experience through filters.  We can state our own experience, and if others believe it, they may just hold on to the belief based on our word, or, if they want to know for themselves they would have to corroborate it by gaining their own experience.  However, another may study the same evidence and find a different conclusion.  For example, Mr. Dawkins gives his testimony of the theory of Evolution - God almost certainly doesn't exist because "Natural Selection" can explain our self-existent state (the Anthropic Principle) - a belief he holds based on concepts he has acquired through observation, the thoughts and ideas of others, and his own rational thinking.  He presents natural selection as a simple, rational, gentle slope up the backside to the peak of the evolutionary cliff.  However, a critical look at the theories presented with the same material evidence could produce a different conclusion.

Empirical evidence for Evolution isn't in any way proof of why it exists.  If I can find a theory that seems explain what I can see, such as the existence and diversity of life, it is in no way evidence that it's spontaneous.  We explain what we already see, assuming we see everything.  The Greeks had a model of the Universe that explained everything they saw, until Copernicus formed a competing theory, and Galileo produced the evidence for it by seeing more.  Mr. Dawkins specifically stretches excessively the idea of natural selection to explain away the existence of the spiritual nature of mankind.  It's a big stretch, but all it has to be is reasonable and he can accept it.  So, how do we swallow an elephant? one bite at a time.  The problem here, as we've just seen, that the bites we try to take become as big as the elephant.  There's no evidence for it.  However, if you just believe hard enough, you can imagine the slope up the back of the mountain to be level enough to walk up, but even that takes both planning and energy.  All order in the Universe requires both planning and focused energy.  Without these we are left with a passive system such water.  Water will not climb up the face of Mr. Dawkins' cliff, but neither will it flow up the back side, no matter how gentle the slope.  In fact, like everything else in the Universe it takes planning and exactly the same amount of energy to perform either task.  There is much more evidence for a self-existent God than a self-existent Universe.

The war between science and religion isn't true.  Those who are "religious" who fear to look at scientific theories because they think any evidence could ever disprove God are hypocrites - their beliefs are more important than the truth.  Likewise, atheists who think that they have found proof that there is no Creator are fooling themselves.  Science attempts to answer questions of "what?" and "how?" but doesn't have the tools to answer "who?" or "why?"  Isn't it ironic that just as science is discovering the relativity of space and time the growing atheist movement is denying the possibility of a being that exists outside of our space and time?  Synchronicity is relative to the frame of reference.  Quantum physics insists that there be more than one frame of reference for matter, space, and time.  Clearly, the existence of a being that exists outside of our frame of reference, that isn't limited by time - a higher dimension, perhaps - falls within both our theoretical and experimental evidence.  Thus, the "scientists" who ascribe to atheism commit the same error of hypocrisy, their beliefs are more important than the evidence.

Old is new
The religion of Nature has been around for thousands of years and is therefore probably the most primitive of all religions.  The sun, moon, and stars, and every person are self-existent; humans are created from Gaia out of nothing, or without direction or planning.  When we die we go back to our Mother Earth and join in "the circle of life."  This ancient religion now has a new face of "science" to put on called "Atheism," not as an organization, but a belief system.  Albert Einstein is regarded as a prophet in this religion on the same level as Moses for the Jews (ironically).  Mr. Dawkins even names the religion after him - "Einsteinian religion."  Charles Darwin is also posthumously recruited as a prophet, who wrote the most important scripture elucidating the doctrine.  It's easy to resurrect intellectually mature people who never fully elucidated their spiritual maturity. Atheism could be viewed as a sect of the "New Age" religion (which acknowledges its primitive roots).  Both believe in nature, rejecting a personal god.  Both are existentialist.  Both are belief systems without organization.

The naturalist religions, including atheism, carry the same weaknesses as all the competing religions as attested by competition itself; presenting an argument that "I'm right and you're wrong" indicates a lack of security in your own knowledge.  Humans like to believe we have arrived.  Whenever we're in the car on a long trip the children ask "are we there yet?" every five minutes!  People who join a religion like to believe they have arrived at truth so they refuse to look at other possibilities.  This is the very reason why religions fight against each other -- insecurity.  Now, Mr. Dawkins has joined in the fray.  He wants recognition for his beliefs.  He is right, enlightened, and progressive, while all others are ignorant and immature infidels.  Why wouldn't everyone want to convert to rationalism, naturalism, and atheism?  It's so logical and obviously enlightened.  Everyone feels the same way about their own beliefs -- we are there!

Propaganda tools are used to support Atheism just like any other religion, such as "bandwagon," that everyone important and intelligent was, is, or is becoming atheist; they're coming out of the closet.  Moreover, he uses selective comments from great historical figures such as Einstein and Darwin to make them appear to ascribe to this religion.  This is the same tactic used by the personal-god-believer religionists to try to bolster their own faith.  For example, both sides use the Founding Fathers of the United States of America to bolster their opinions, and both misquote them because they can see only that which supports their beliefs.  People who aren't strong in their own knowledge need to bring in others for support.

The accusations brought against all the other religions of the world apply equally to atheism.  Most religions have a self-existent god just as the atheist god of random.  Ignorance forms the foundation, ignoring the spiritual nature of man.  Belief without evidence is required of all who are going to accept that everything is self-existent.  Though spontaneous generation flies in the face of reason and evidence, you must believe that some day science will progress enough to understand.  They believe their god is in the gaps of their knowledge, that some day they will figure it out.  Hypocrisy permeates the religion that says science is its ally, but denies the evidence that contradicts their beliefs.  Laziness is the essence of explaining away or brushing off the experiences of most of humanity throughout history rather than trying to understand them.  Thus, atheism attempts to replace one set of immature belief systems with another.  It's really just the old nature religion, with a twist they call "science."  As Jean-Baptiste Alphonse Carr so aptly stated, "plus ça change, plus c’est la même chose."